When one hears the word “pain” they automatically think negatively, but who can really blame them? Whether it is not making enough money, not having a perfect relationship, or not feeling accomplished – we all feel pain, but fail to realize that at the end of the day, pain is positive. Pain is a life lesson in disguise.

The reason people feel that they can’t grasp happiness, is because they are looking for an answer outside themselves. We’re blaming life, blaming people, blaming circumstances, blaming anything we can, when the only thing or person we can really blame, is ourselves.

It’s in our nature as humans to not like pain, and to do what we can to avoid it – but, the more you avoid pain, the further away you are from experiencing your life lessons, and full potential.

Imagine that the door to your dream life is in front of you, and you have the key to open it. The key is in your hands – literally, and that’s exactly how life is. In your hands. In your control.

Instead of our initial reaction of trying to avoid pain, we need to face it, because the only way to move forward with your life is to know what holds you back. That is where you find your life lessons, the things that you will always attract because life is a constant event.

Don’t avoid, make an effort to understand.

Why are you mad?

Why are you sad?

Why are you being used?

It’s because of something you are doing. You need to make the changes.

So the question is, how do you make that change? Here is my example:

Think of your hands. If you’re right handed – you’re not going to use your left because it’s weak [Avoiding]. But in order to make that weakness stronger, you need to put it to work. Start using your left hand more to build up its muscle, and make it as strong as your right. Life wants you to build that weak muscle.

We all have a life purpose, but if you have weaknesses such as low self-esteem, being a pushover, whatever it may be – you will never achieve your full potential. You need to fight those weaknesses out of your life, and empower yourself to get rid of the baggage weighing you down.

The fact of the matter is, you’re always going to have someone who will challenge you, and that’s the only way you will learn. People will continually push you and test your boundaries – push back because those boundaries are life lessons in disguise, and they will not go away until you recognize them, and take action.

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