Dec 14, 2010
One thing we all can relate to is the feeling of regret. Whether that is regretting something you said, something you did, or something you didn’t do, we have all felt it in some way.
I’ve come to the realization that regret is the only emotion one has full control of. Well, I guess you have control over all of your emotions, but to go more in-depth, a lot of things factor into other emotions: happiness, sadness, and anger. Things such as people. Yes, we can regret things that involve other people, but regret is honestly the only emotion that you have control over. Regret has nothing to do with anyone but yourself because it’s what you feel – technically, no one can regret something for you.
My purpose of writing this post is because I believe that we should not let regret overcome us. Regret should not exist in our life for more than five minutes because at the end of it all, regrets are a blessing in disguise.
I’ve had a number of regrets, but I realized that there is no point of feeling this odd emotion. Regret derives from mistakes we feel we made. Regret makes us feel down about ourselves, so why put yourself in that position? Regret should never overcome us.
I used to mope around being sad because of some of my regrets, and one random morning I woke up and realized how pathetic I was being – I felt weak. Instead of moping around wishing I had done this or done that, I could have made my life much easier and just accepted the mistakes I made, learned from them and applied those lessons to my present and future. Think about it. What is sitting around thinking and dwelling on your regrets, when you can just learn from it and change it now?
Do you regret a friendship or relationship that you let slip away? Then go fix it. Do you regret saying something you know you shouldn’t have said? Then apologize and sincerely mean it. Do you regret not trying your hardest with school, a sport or hobby? Then try harder now and make up for it. The point I am trying to make is, you are wasting your time feeling regret over whatever it is that you feel so bad about, it does you absolutely no good.
I have started to look at regrets as a blessing in disguise. If there is no breaking, there is no healing, and if there is no healing, there is no learning.
I challenge all of my readers to think about the things you regret, find the lesson behind it, understand it, apply it, and don’t allow yourself to dwell on it anymore after today. I promise, you will feel so much better and see life in a different way.