Apr 15, 2014
Quitting is almost always a bad thing, but when it comes to your life and being successful (personal and career) – Quitting can be a good thing. Below are the 5 things I quit to be successful.
1. I quit trying to please everyone.
I used to be the type that wanted everyone to be happy – to the point where I would even put others feelings before my own. Yes, looking out for others, being a good person and all that is great. I encourage you to do it, but not if it’s going to hurt you in the end.
I stayed in so many jobs, and said “yes” to too many people and opportunities because I wanted to be there for the certain person or company. I kept myself from doing things I wanted to do because someone would feel a certain way about it. Why was I this way? Because I felt I owed them something. Owed them something in a sense that they were either A) there for me through a difficult time or B) gave me an opportunity. Well, here’s the thing – you don’t have to repay someone everyday for the rest of your life.
At the end of the day, you have to look out for yourself and put yourself first. Stop doing things that you don’t want to do. Stop not doing things because of someone else’s insecurity. I’m not saying go be a selfish bitch or an inconsiderate asshole, but don’t go out of your way to slow down your dreams and not doing things that will make you happy – what sense does that make?
2. I quit avoiding confrontation.
One of my weaknesses was confrontation – and I would avoid it all costs because I don’t like being uncomfortable. I would choose letting a situation stay bad or awkward, just so I wouldn’t have to address it. The fact of the matter is though, if you don’t speak up, you will get stepped on. If there’s a problem, you need to speak on it before it’s too late. Really, the longer you wait, the more uncomfortable it’s going to be. So man the fuck up.
3. I quit making excuses.
Whenever things don’t go our way, we tend to make excuses or blame other people. I stopped doing that. There is no one else responsible for you or the choices you make other than you. Whatever situation you’re in that’s annoying or irritating you, well, that’s your own fault. No one is forcing you to do anything.
4. I quit starting over.
Ugh, this one is still hard to break, but I’m taking baby steps and it’s working. The perfect example could be my blog. I started this in 2009, but it wasn’t until late 2013, early 2014 that I really put effort into it. I kept taking breaks – literally months at a time where I wouldn’t post anything all those years. It sucked looking at how much my site would grow over that period, then seeing those numbers drop drastically just because I wasn’t consistent. Stop starting the same process over 1000 times.
5. I quit caring about what other people think.
Whether it was letting internet bullies and hate mail get the best of me, or being afraid to be myself or doing what I wanted because of what other people would think – I quit doing that. You can’t win them all – so don’t even waste your time trying.
Unfortunately, there are many things I still need to “quit,” such as overthinking, eating fast food 24/7, being too emotional and all that shit – but I’d say this is a good start.
What are you going to quit today?
[SEE ALSO: 10 Reasons You Don’t Want My Job]